Sexy way to be
The ACLU (National) For almost 100 years, the ACLU has worked to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed by the Constitution and laws of the United States.
A non-profit organization primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the BDSM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities. They have an extensive library of resources with information on The Consent Counts Program, general statistics and surveys, information about SM, and resources for Kink Aware Professionals.
For nearly 100 years, Planned Parenthood has promoted a commonsense approach to women’s health and well-being, based on respect for each individual’s right to make informed, independent decisions about health, sex, and family planning.
(ICRSE) was established as the legal entity in the Netherlands in 2004 to create a European network of sex workers and allies and as the organisers of the 2005 European Conference on Sex Work, Human Rights, Labour and Migration in Brussels, Belgium. They have a long list of resources here: http://www.sexworkeurope.org/resources ______________________ The Unslut Project has a great list of resources, find them here: http://www.unslutproject.com/resources.html
Sexuality and Sensuality
She Bop offers workshops on sex-related topics every few weeks.
SexPositivePDX is a new nonprofit organization which currently hosts a variety of local events, and intends to host both an annual festival and a Burning Man camp.
We were impressed with the LoveTribe “Rapture” event we attended while researching this guide: if it’s ever offered in Portland again it might be a great place to start.
The best place to start is probably the polyamorypdx mailing list: this discussion list is currently the best source of information on Portland poly happenings, including informal social gatherings which aren’t announced anywhere else.
Portland is home to many poly-friendly therapists, one example being Gwenn Cody LCSW.
The Velvet Rope is Portland’s oldest on-premise club, at the location previously known as Ace of Hearts.
NW Pendulums offers monthly meet and greets at a lifestyle-friendly bar.
Getting Started in the Community
A good place to start is the Rose City Discussion Club; serving as a sort of “Welcome Wagon” to the Portland scene, RCDC offers monthly classes and socials, and publishes an informative newsletter.
Another easy way to get started is to attend a community “munch” (i.e. an informal lunch or dinner gathering at a local restaurant): details and directions are available on the PDX Leather Alliance site.
You can also subscribe to the PDX-ASB mailing list for information and announcements concerning the Portland BDSM community, and check out thePortland Leather Alliance calendar.
The Portland area’s biggest “can’t miss” event is the March KinkFest conference hosted by Portland Leather Alliance.
Oregon Leather Pride Week is hosted in Portland every August.
Blackout Leather Productions hosts the annual Mr. and Ms. Oregon Leather competitions.
Women who prefer women-only space should check out PDX Bad Girls.
The Eagle is Portland’s men’s leather bar (their main fetish event is called “L.U.R.E.”). Also, look for the Portland Leathermen Potluck in one of the above community calendars.
Special Interest Events
Noble Rope Arts offers events for rope bondage enthusiasts, while MAsT offers events for D/s enthusiasts.
Bathhouses for Gay or Bi Men
Portland has at least one: Steam Portland.
A cautionary reminder may be in order here, as it should be everywhere else: you cannot tell whether somebody is HIV-positive or HIV-negative based on how they look or what they say.
Spiritual Sexuality Workshops and Counseling
The Body Electric School offers its basic workshop in Portland, and Seattle isn’t far away if you’re interested in some of their other workshops.
A variety of workshops on sex and intimacy are offered at the annual Network for a New Culture Summer Camp.
Two people currently offering counseling in intimacy skills and/or Tantra in the Portland area are Anna Marti and Kelly.
If after taking a workshop or two you find you’d like to learn more, or would like to socialize with others who share your interest in this subject, then you might consider joining Portland’s Sacred Tantra Club.
She Bop is a comfortable woman-owned store which offers an excellent selection of quality sex toys and books.
Spartacus carries a wide range of sex toys and fetish clothing for both men and women, and is conveniently located one block away from Powell’s Books.
Powell’s City of Books, located at 1005 W Burnside and open 9am-11pm every day, is the largest new and used bookstore in the world. Relevant sections for the purposes of this guide include “Erotica”, “Romance”, “Sexuality”, “Feminist Studies”, and “Gender Studies.” At the time this guide was written books on sex work were shelved with Feminist Studies, books on transgender were shelved with Gender Studies, and how-to guides were distributed between the Erotica and Sexuality sections.
Counter Media, located at 927 SW Oak, offers “smut, comics, and weirdness.” They have a more diverse selection of erotica than Powell’s Books, and are located just one block away. At the time this guide was written their hours were Mon-Sat 11am-7pm and Sun noon-6pm.
The most comprehensive guide to GLBT resources and events in the Portland area is maintained by the bi-weekly newspaper Just Out.
Other ways to learn about GLBT resources in the Portland area include Q Center, the Out Loud weekly radio show on KBOO 90.7 FM, and the JunePride Parade and Festival.
Pivot is Portland’s new gay men’s community space.
Other resources include Oregon Bears, a Radical Faeries circle, and a gay men’s nudist organization called OMEN.
As starting points, we recommend visiting the (wonderful) bookstore In Other Words, and going through the current Just Out listings.
The Northwest Gender Alliance offers support, social, and educational opportunities in the Portland area for individuals who desire to explore and express another gender, and Resources PDX offers a well-organized health directory.
Drag Mansion (“Queer. Drag. Performance. Art”) currently hosts drag king performances.
HIV/STD testing is available through the Multnomah County Health Department.
Portland has two Planned Parenthood clinics: one in the northeast, and one in the southeast.
Two therapists with professional training in sex therapy currently working in the Portland area are Julie Jeske MS and Nancy Campbell Hanks MFT: see the Kink Aware Professionals site for others.
Books For Male Rape/Abuse/Incest Survivors
- Male On Male Rape: The Hidden Toll of Stigma and Shame
- Understanding Male Sexual Abuse: Why Male Victims Remain Silent
- To the Survivors: One Man’s Journey as a Rape Crisis Counselor with True Stories of Sexual Violence
- Echoes of Innocence – Survivor [Kindle Edition]
- Male Rape: The Emergence of a Social and Legal Issue
- Women Who Rape Men (Female Sex Predators)
- Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- The Male Survivor: The Impact of Sexual Abuse [Kindle Edition]
- Evicting the Perpetrator: A Male Survivor Guide to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse
- Opening The Door: A Treatment Model For Therapy With Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse
- Male Survivors: 12-Step Recovery Program for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse : With Exercises for Personal Growth
- One out of Six and Many, Many, More: A Collection of Poetry from a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse
- In Cabin Six : An Anthology of Poetry by Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Adult Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Silent Rage: African American Boys and Sexual Abuse [Kindle Edition]
Blogs and Pages for Male Rape Survivors
Breaking the culture of silence–a place for male survivors to share experiences, connect, and heal. You are not alone.
Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
MenWeb – Men’s Voices: Surviving and Living Male Survivors of Childhood Sex Abuse
Mpower- Supporting Male Survivors of Abuse
Male Survivor- Overcoming sexual victimization of boys and men
Living Well Resource for men who have been sexually abused or assaulted
SurvivorsUK –Help and counselling for male survivors of rape and abuse in the UK
Mankind- Resources and support services for male survivors of sexual assault and abuse
Melissa Gira Grant’s list of the best in sex work writing from last year
Lies, Damned Lies and Sex Work Statistics
Nevada’s Brothels: Legalization Serves the Man
To the would-be sex work abolitionist, or, ‘ain’t I a woman’?
Oh and hey, if you’re interested in getting into the sex industry, you can probably find the answers to all of your questions here:
There are even specific forums there for camming and for “other work” like escorting.
Global Network of Sex Work Projects
A useful pdf of 10 reasons why sex work should be decriminalized
List Plus Size Stores
http://www.1-plus.com/on/demandware.store/Sites-1Plus_CA-Site/default/Home-Page?id=AE (different site than above)